Not So Selfish Loving

Stop All Criticism.

     Criticism never changes a thing. Accept yourself as you are, everybody changes, and when you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, the changes are positive.

Don't Scare Yourself.

     Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (no not like that) and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be Gentle, Kind, Patient.

     Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn new ways of thinking.

Be Kind To Your Mind.

     Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts, instead, gently change them.

Praise Yourself.

     Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Tell yourself how well you're doing with every little thing (without being conceited).

Support Yourself.

     Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you, it shoes strength to ask.

Be Loving To Your Negatives.

     Acknowledge that you created negativity to fulfill a need. As you find new, positive ways to fulfill those needs, you can release the old negative habit.

Take Care Of Your Body.

     Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. Which physical activity do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the person you are.

Mirror Work.

     Look into your eyes often, Express this growing sense of new found love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror, forgive them too. At least once a day say, "I love you".

Do It Now.

     Don't wait until you get well, lose the weight, get the new job or new relationship. Begin now and do the best you can.